This is a summary of the podcast, Parenting with Mercy. I am finding these questions applicable to overcoming bondage in my own life as well as having deeper conversations with my children and friends...
1. What was going on?
This addresses the situation.
2. What were you thinking and feeling as it was going on?
Starting to move inward.
3. What was your response?
This is how you responded to the situation. Shows that your response was not really the situation but was motivated by what was going on in your heart.
4. Why did you do it?
Another way to ask: What were you trying to accomplish. This is going after motive.
5. What was the result?
Here you are trying to look at things in a way you would not naturally do on your own. This gets you own what is going on in your hearts and recognize the consequences of it.
6. What would the situation have looked like if you responded differently?
This question brings you back to grace;
Grace of: insight, conviction, repentance, forgiveness, transformation, and deliverance
Commit to asking your kids or yourself these questions and trust God to bring about transformation.