I went to a women's retreat at my church that was themed "What Matter's Most." The speaker, Janie Alfred (https://janiealfreddotcom.wordpress.com), shared the following (author unknown):
The quote, "Parenting isn't for Cowards" is from a book by Dr. James Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family and Family Talk. So many times lately I have had that thought run through my head. I am thankful to live at time where there are so many resources to help guide me in life, including the Bible and all its translations, but the amount of suggestions, or changes, or ideas of what to do to have a thriving family can be a little overwhelming.
Recently a friend told me about a ministry that she had sent her child to at a time of great need in his life. I am hooked on the podcast and just wanted to document it here - because that is why I am even doing this page - for a record of some things I am learning along this journey that may be worth sharing.
I have also read Mark Gregston's book, Tough Guys and Drama Queens. It was great, especially the questions at the end that I try to make a game of answering at dinner some nights. We actually will draw a question, each of us answers, and we vote on how complete or well thought out the answer is - by assigning a dollar value to it (actually a cent value up to $1 per question). I am currently reading another of his books, When your Teen is Struggling. I am liking the practicality of the second half.
This is a summary of the podcast, Parenting with Mercy. I am finding these questions applicable to overcoming bondage in my own life as well as having deeper conversations with my children and friends...
1. What was going on?
This addresses the situation.
2. What were you thinking and feeling as it was going on?
Starting to move inward.
3. What was your response?
This is how you responded to the situation. Shows that your response was not really the situation but was motivated by what was going on in your heart.
4. Why did you do it?
Another way to ask: What were you trying to accomplish. This is going after motive.
5. What was the result?
Here you are trying to look at things in a way you would not naturally do on your own. This gets you own what is going on in your hearts and recognize the consequences of it.
6. What would the situation have looked like if you responded differently?
This question brings you back to grace;
Grace of: insight, conviction, repentance, forgiveness, transformation, and deliverance
Commit to asking your kids or yourself these questions and trust God to bring about transformation.
I struggle sometimes with how God responds to prayer: Why is it important, does it have any effect on human events, how does God answer prayer? Well today, the Lord answered several of my prayers and I would like to share them and remember.
One prayer that I have prayed for intermittently, is that God would reveal what I need to know about my children's lives. Now, I really don't like to find out that my children are participating in questionable or sinful activities but I know that it is part of life and part of parenting. After all, I sometimes participate in unhealthy and sinful behavior too! Well, today the Lord showed me that one of my children had been involved with something that I would have really hoped they wouldn't... I had a sinking feeling in my stomach but I also had to thank the Lord for showing me something that I needed to know.
The second prayer, well it goes with the above. "Now that I know Lord, what am I going to do about it?" I immediately felt alone, like a failure as a mother, and clueless on how to deal with this issue. Well I turned on my podcasts, I subscribe to several and they started playing. The second one up was my answer to prayer, I couldn't believe it, "Thank you GOD"! I praised Him - "He is alive - He answers prayer - I am not alone" - He can clearly show me how to deal if I ask and even when I don't - it is not about me it is about Christ - it is about others - it is about my child.
Here is the podcast's title "Parenting with Mercy"